Friday, June 22, 2012

On Being Remembered

Design Mom posts a lot of interesting discussions that I enjoy reading and thinking about. One such discussion a few weeks ago was about being remembered. She asked:

If you could be remembered for just one thing, what would you hope that one thing would be?

The thing I would most like to be remembered for is being generous. Not generous in the sense of money or possessions, but in the sense of being very thoughtful and considerate in order to give someone what they need at the moment. Maybe that's dropping off dinner or just listening to someone talk about something that's bothering them. Perhaps it's rearranging my schedule to accommodate someone else's. Doing the dishes for whoever cooked the meal. Sending a gift or a card when someone is having a bad day. Generosity isn't just about physical things, but it is also about time, friendship, service.

I want to be generous because I feel so blessed to have had many generous people in my own life. Even now, I regularly benefit from my friends accommodating the fact that I have kids - and so we do things that are kid friendly, even if non-kid friendly activities might be more fun. Or recently a friend vaccumed out my car (which I've been complaining about forever) when she borrowed it. Little things like this mean the world to me, and I want to be the person who is able to give those kinds of things back.

The main skill necessary for this life goal is listening.  So I'm practicing my listening. And then taking the opportunity to give when it arises.

What about you? What would you want to be remembered for?


  1. A very good question! I would say for being kind :)

  2. Without elaborating too much, my answer is loving, which I sort of feel like is a wee bit of a cheat because loving encompasses so many things, including being generous, which I want to be remembered for. But, I really do try to make choices out of love. I do things for myself and for others out of love.

    Oh, you are by far one of the most generous people I know. I will definitely remember you for that.

  3. What an interesting question! (Hi Michelle! I love your blog!)

    I think I would want to be remembered for being committed to whatever it is I am involved in: work, family, play, etc.

  4. I think you are doing all the things you need to in order to be remembered that way. You are genuinely one of the most generous and caring people I know. People like you, who I'm so lucky to have in my life and be inspired by, help me believe in the human race. I know that sounds cheesy, but it's true.

    As for me...I'm not sure I can answer this question without stealing you and Mallory's answers! But if I have to choose my own thing, I guess I would love to be remembered as a compassionate person. Someone that other people feel comfortable coming to with their problems or their joys. I want people to feel they can share any experience with me and that I will embrace them lovingly and openly. I believe that we are meant to share experiences with others in order to learn and grow, so I would like to facilitate those kind of interactions as often as possible.

    Good question though! I love thinking about it, but not as much as I love you girls ;)


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